OKAY, BUT WHAT AM I ACTUALLY BUYING?
A digital Field Guide that takes about 45 minutes to go through the first time.
You can read it on your phone or computer, move through it at your own pace, and come back whenever you want. There are things to read, questions to consider, and places to try what you're learning on your own life.
It's not a course. There are no weekly lessons, calls, deadlines, or homework to turn in.
Buy it once. Take about 45 minutes. See what you notice. Keep it for when you need it.
Small instruments for seeing what you couldn't see before.
I’m an acupuncturist, which means I’ve been professionally trained to perceive patterns in living bodies that other people aren't trained to see.
The funny thing is, those patterns don't stop at the skin.
Proof of Life® Field Guides take the way I’ve been trained to look at living systems and turn it outward toward ordinary life: relationships, work, beauty, money, grief, creativity, the systems we build, and the weird little systems we accidentally build our lives around.
Conceptually, they're a little like acupuncture without the needles.
I’m handing you some of my perceptual capacity so you can take it out into your own life and see what becomes visible.
Field Guides
Here, you'll find the Field Guide for the Wood Element: a living tool for learning to see when movement is serving your becoming, and when your generative energy is being spent keeping something else moving.
WITCH, WITCH, YOU’RE A WITCH!
You don't need me to tell you to try harder. You're already doing shit all day.
You decide, solve, produce, plan, care, organize, achieve, make things happen—and then stare at the thing you want to do and wonder why you apparently have no discipline.
Maybe the question isn't “Why can't I make myself move?”
Maybe it's “Where is all my movement already going?”
A Proof of Life® Field Guide to the Wood Element
Here, you'll find the Field Guide for the Fire Element: a living tool for learning to see when connection allows you to encounter what is alive, and when you're supplying the connection without actually being reached by it.
Here, you'll find the Field Guide for the Earth Element: a living tool for learning to see when nourishment sustains Life, and when someone’s qi is footing the bill for keeping everything else going.
BE HERE NOW.
You can be loved and still not feel seen.
You show up as the partner, parent, friend, daughter, competent one, funny one — whatever version of you other people have learned how to relate to — and somehow feel like they're interacting with the shape of you instead of you.
Maybe the question isn't “Why don't they see me?”
Maybe it's “What would let us actually encounter each other?”
A Proof of Life® Field Guide to the Fire Element
Here, you'll find the Field Guide for the Metal Element: a living tool for learning to see when form serves Life, and when Life starts serving the form.
Here, you'll find the Field Guide for the Water Element: a living tool for learning to see when protection helps you meet the unknown with depth, and when protection starts cutting you off from the very resources that help you meet it.
YOU DID NOT BEGIN WITH YOU.
Why does having more somehow never make you feel like you have enough?
More money can mean more responsibility. More success can mean more to maintain. More help can come with strings attached. So you conserve, prepare, anticipate, hold something back—or keep going while quietly wondering what happens when the reserves run out.
What if your resources could do more than prepare you for the next thing that will consume them?
A Proof of Life® Field Guide to the Water Element
THE MATRIARCHY WOULD NEVER ALLOW THIS.
You take care of everything. So why are you still fucking starving?
The meals get made. The appointments get scheduled. The work gets done. The people you love get cared for. Maybe you even exercise, drink the water, take the supplements and technically “take care of yourself.”
But providing nourishment and actually being nourished are not the same thing.
A Proof of Life® Field Guide to the Earth Element
IF IT’S PERFECT, IT’S DEAD.
You're really good at making things work. Maybe too good.
You adjust, compensate, organize, refine, try harder, find the workaround—and sometimes never notice that the thing only works because you've become exceptionally good at adapting yourself around it.
What if you aren't the only thing available to change?
A Proof of Life® Field Guide to the Metal Element